*Good news & bad news*
Okay let’s start with the bad news.
‘Every woman is wired differently. Some women’s nerves branch more in the vagina; other women’s nerves branch more in the clitoris. Some branch a great deal in the perineum, or at the mouth of the cervix. That accounts for some of the differences in female sexual response.’
What’s physically stimulating for one woman, may not work at all for another woman.
So with every woman you will have to discover how her body is wired. Ask her things – before sex, during sex, after sex. Help her open up and express herself – if she isn’t doing so already.
A woman often times is afraid to express what she wants and likes, sexually. Either because she doesn’t want to make you feel like you’re doing something wrong. Or because she feels embarrased about showing her desires. (Unconsciously, we are still very much programmed to serve and please our man).
Or maybe because she doesn’t really know what feels best to her. (Spending many hours with a vibrator just stimulating her clitoris, or many years with a man that doesn’t really know how to please her, doesn’t exactly lead to self discovery).
Try reading a book about tantric sex together. This might get the conversation going. And things may get very juicy.
The good news?
There’s more and more information and courses available about female sexuality and sacred sex (aka amazing love making).
Get your ass informed!
For example, the quote I used earlier is from the mind blowing book: VAGINA by Naomi Wolf.
This book is packed with cutting-edge scientific (!!!) information about women & sexuality. Like, did you know about the cervical orgasm already?
It’s amazing AND it’s scientifically proven.
Everyone should read this book.
And more good news: there are also a lot of things that DO “work” for most women. Yesss, I will be sharing more about that soon too.
So dear man❤️
When you start sleeping with a woman, consider it a new adventure! A new landscape to discover. And remember, if you don’t know which way to go, don’t be afraid to ask for directions…
Love,
Elien.
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